Fourteen years ago, my best friend called me at two in the morning. His wife had di33…d less than an hour earlier. An aneurysm. No warning. No time for goodbyes.
I can still remember standing barefoot in my kitchen, listening to Corbin struggle to breathe on the other end of the phone.
“Arlen, I can’t do this.”
Behind his voice, I could hear cartoons playing quietly. His four-year-old son, Jace, was asleep in the next room. Or at least I thought he was.
“Don’t do anything tonight,” I told Corbin. “Just stay there. I’ll be over first thing in the morning.”
He kept repeating that he wasn’t strong enough to raise a child alone.
I thought it was grief talking.
I was wrong.
At seven the next morning, I arrived at his house carrying two coffees. The front door was unlocked. Inside, the television was still on. Jace was sitting cross-legged on the living room carpet in dinosaur pajamas, eating dry cereal out of a plastic cup.When he saw me, he looked toward the hallway.
“Uncle Arlen, where’s Daddy?”
My stomach dropped.
I searched the bedrooms, the bathroom, even the backyard.
Corbin was gone.
On the kitchen counter, beside his keys to the house, was a piece of paper.
I’m not built for this.
That was it.
No instructions.
No explanation.
No plan for his son.
I was twenty-eight years old, single, living in a one-bedroom apartment and earning nineteen dollars an hour at an auto repair shop.
I had no idea how to raise a child.
But I knew enough to understand one thing.
I wasn’t leaving Jace alone.
At first, I thought Corbin would come back after a day or two.
Then a week passed.
Then a month.
He disconnected his phone.
Nobody seemed to know where he had gone.
Jace’s mother had no close relatives who could take him, and Corbin’s family wanted nothing to do with the situation.
So Jace came home with me.
He slept in my bedroom while I slept on a couch that was about six inches too short for my body.
I learned very quickly that four-year-olds ask questions you cannot answer.
“When is Daddy coming back?”
“Did Mommy know she was going away?”
“Was I bad?”
That last one nearly destroyed me.
“No, buddy,” I told him. “None of this happened because of you.”
For months, I expected Corbin to return.
He never did.
The adoption process took almost a year.
I spent money I didn’t have on lawyers, paperwork, inspections, and court appointments. My boss gave me extra shifts when I needed them and quietly ignored the number of times I left early because Jace had a fever or a school meeting.
My coworker, Warren, covered for me more times than I could count.
“Go,” he would say whenever my phone rang. “Cars will still be broken tomorrow.”
By the time the judge approved the adoption, Jace was five.
Outside the courthouse, he held my hand and asked, “Does this mean you’re my dad now?”
I crouched so we were eye to eye.
“Only if you want me to be.”
He thought about it seriously.
Then he nodded.
“Okay.”
He didn’t actually call me Dad for another year.
The first time happened by accident.
He was six and had fallen during basketball practice. I heard him crying from across the gym.
“Dad!”
I ran before I even realized he meant me.
From then on, it stuck.
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